Poor Man Pays Twice

I was working on some wood floors a while back, and my belt sander busted.  My buddy looked at the broken machine and said “Don’t be cheap. Poor man pays twice,” and went back to work with his fancy yellow one.


But I learned a lesson.

I think it applies to more than electric belt sanders. 

Somewhere along the way, I picked up a bunch of quick-fix cheap tools to meet some basic needs.

For example, porn was a cheap tool I kept using to meet an intimacy need. That is just one example, there are more, and I’m sure you have a bunch you can think of for yourself. 

Lately, I’ve been investing in new and better tools. Tools like the Feeling Wheel so I can attach the right word to the right feeling. Vulnerability is a great tool for breaking shame.

There are a load of others that help like resting a consistent amount, eating right, worshipping, calling a friend, heading out on an adventure. A good list to start on can be found on page 22 in ManAlive: The Making of Men. If you haven't got the book, I highly recommend it.   

After three years, I now have a decently sized tool box, and it feels good. Some of them definitely cost more than others, but it has been worth it.

Start getting some new tools. Don’t be cheap. You aren’t a poor man.