Did You Shower This Morning?

Nathan Nisly, a small group leader at ManAlive, offers a good view on the value of friendship and why we need it.


“You stink. Did you shower this morning?”


Hudson wasn’t joking. Instantly I was on the defensive. Every part of me wanted to argue. He didn’t understand or know my situation. I had all these reasons in my head for my circumstances. But the truth was, I had not showered in the morning and I knew that he had a good point. I stank.


I had a choice. I could fight and argue about it and we could disagree on this point for the rest of the day. Or I could admit that my choices were negatively affecting him and make a change.


As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. Proverbs 27:17


We all have places that need to be sharpened. We all have blind spots. We all have weaknesses. We all have parts of us that aren’t that pretty and we are all dysfunctional at times.


Without friends, you are flying blind. You can’t see your weaknesses. You won’t know when you are doing something stupid. Being human means that we get distinctly smelly at times, but the beauty is that we can engage in relationships with others and allow ourselves to grow, change, and get clean.


The opportunity for building meaningful friendships has been one of the most rewarding things I have encountered at ManAlive. This place champions men to build deep, powerful friendships. We set the standard and show what can be done and that friendship is essential for a man to live fully alive.


A good friend will call you out when you stink. I need that. You need that.